#StuckInTheMiddle- How to deal if you can’t seem to get along with your boyfriend’s friends!

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By Shahzeen Shivdasani

Ever feel like your boyfriend’s friends hate you! Well they probably don’t. Some people are just different from you and you can’t get along with everyone. However, it is hard when you share someone in common. Here are 5 ways to deal, when you just can’t seem to get along with your boyfriend’s friends.

Get to know them: You should always try to get to know them better. I am sure that once they learn that this relationship is serious, they will also want to get to know YOU. Make an effort and then decide. Do not be quick to judge.

Detach yourself: If this doesn’t work and you still don’t seem to get along with them then all you can really do, is detach yourself. They will always be nice to your face because both parties share a loved one in common. However, if they are giving him advice on your relationship and you feel that they don’t know you well enough to comment, then DETACH. Also, explain to your boyfriend that if he keeps opening up to them ONLY during the hard times then they will know you as the one that brings him pain. This will contribute to ensuring that you guys DO NOT bond quickly.

Don’t let it effect your relationship: If he is still with you and has come this far without letting his friends opinion get in the way then, he truly likes you for YOU. Respect that! Do not let anything or anyone get in the way of your relationship.

You have your people: You’ve got your friends and he has his. Spend time with your friends and give him time to do the same. You do not always have to be everywhere together! This will also help you detach and help in keeping you calm.

Trust and Accept: As I said before, you can’t make everyone like you. Trust that your boyfriend likes you who you are and not what his friends think of you. Accept that you can’t change the situation. No matter what happens, you and his friends will have to at least be cordial in order to keep the peace.

Remember, they don’t have to like you…they just have to respect you!

Shahzeen Shivdasani

Shahzeen Shivdasani

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