#YouCanCope- How to cope when you find out a loved one is terminally ill.



By Shahzeen Shivdasani

Your hold world comes crashing down when you find out that someone you love is extremely sick. You don’t know what to do, what to say or how to feel. You can’t concentrate and everything seems meaningless. If something like this has happened to you, here are 5 things you can do to ensure that you are coping the right way.

Grieve- You are allowed to have the feelings you are having! You are allowed to not be able to concentrate, you are allowed to be angry at the world and you are allowed to cry endlessly. Let it out. You have to give this to yourself.

Accept- Accept the situation. I know this is easier said then done. However, the sooner you accept what is happening the sooner you will be able to gain control of yourself and your surroundings.

Connect with yourself– Do something for yourself. Something that involves no one but YOU. It can be painting, going for a walk at a place that calms you or writing. Whatever it is, connecting with your core always brings inner peace.

Think of them– Once you have achieved the above three steps now you can move on to thinking about the person in this situation. Try to stop focusing on your emotions and think how you can help through theirs. In a situation like this you really cant say much. However, what you can do is think of ways to make them laugh. Sometimes all a person needs is the people they love to, just BE THERE.

Stay Strong– Stay Centered and stay strong. Help them fight and accept if they couldn’t. Do not beat yourself up for any emotions you may go through no matter what the outcome. In the words of Vicki Harrison “ Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves, ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do…is swim”.



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